Emily deTar Gilmartin
Availability
Monday through Friday, Day and Evening Times Available
License
Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate, MC61565822
Rate
$150 per 50-minute session
Emily deTar Gilmartin,
LMHC-A: Navigating Trauma, Restoring Trust, and Rebuilding Connections
Struggle is such a part of being human.
I see my clients as needing to be supported and guided as they navigate what their struggles mean to them, while being championed by someone who can collaboratively structure a path to healing, growth, confident decision-making, and restored relationships.
I believe that no struggle can be truly healed without self-knowledge, the feeling that choice and positive change is possible, and receiving the support of true empathy.
Learn About Emily
My name is Emily deTar Gilmartin and I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate, having graduated from Gonzaga with a Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. I have experience working with adolescent and adult individuals and couples, with goals ranging from lessening social anxiety, to processing early childhood trauma that has continued to impact their relationships and careers long into adulthood, to finding new ways to interact with their partner that doesn’t involve fighting or feelings of abandonment and contempt.
My client experience ranges from age 12 to 65 and every human struggle you could imagine: routine building, sleep hygiene, perinatal counseling, communication, anxiety, depression, career changes, cult recovery, religious trauma, thoughts of self-harm, and wounded or broken relationships with family, spouses, partners, lovers, friends, children, faith groups, cultures, and self. The overarching theme of my clients’ work was understanding the physical and emotional symptoms of past traumas assaulting their everyday lives and leading to the breakdown of relationships.
Before coming to Spokane to embark on a counseling education and career, I spent fifteen years in five different countries working with and volunteering with war refugees, victims of sexual violence and abuse, incarcerated and houseless populations, young children in the foster system, and individuals of all ages struggling with thoughts of self-harm and helplessness about their current life situation and relationships. At the core of all of these experiences, I saw a longing in people from every walk of life that was so evident: the desire to be able to trust and to connect.
Trainings
- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Externship
- Betrayal Trauma and Repair of Attachment Injuries using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Motivational Interviewing
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Working with Suicidal Clients in Private Practice
- Compassionate Inquiry into Trauma with Gabor Mate
Areas of interest
- Affairs and Infidelity Recovery
- Sex Positivity/Kink/Polyamory/Sexual Identity/ENM
- Prenatal, Pregnancy, Postpartum, Co-Parenting
- Discernment Counseling and Questioning the Relationship
- Relationship Conflict and Communication Issues
- ADHD in Relationships
- High-achieving, neurodivergent, burnt-out women
Education
- University of Idaho, Bachelor’s degree in Psychology
- North Idaho College, Associate of Arts
My Counseling Style
I work with high-achieving individuals who have built impressive careers and relationships, yet find themselves running on empty. They are driven, capable, and quietly burnt out.
I work primarily from an attachment and trauma-informed lens, primarily implementing the Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) model, and drawing on my knowledge base of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Narrative Exposure Therapy (NET) where appropriate.
I aim to support individuals and couples dealing with conflict; to help remove the burden of shame from individuals whose personal traumas have interrupted their ability to enjoy intimacy and deep, lasting attachments with others; and to help individuals and couples struggling with sudden change or identity crises to feel like they have control over the new and real them that is emerging.
I am committed to bearing witness to every client’s authentic feelings, to acting as a force that gives each client permission to be there as whoever they really are, and to nurturing a climate that makes it possible to speak out loud the things that they are afraid to want or that they know they need to change. From a place of respect and non-judgment, I hope to see each client come to a place where they are no longer in need of me.